Mentality is one thing that does not depend on class or gender. So many people in this country lack good parenting. And one of the trending troubles caused by lack of parenting is lack of sex education. Molestation, rapes, cyber harassment, sexual abusing, one gender blaming the other etc. All of this wouldn’t exist if we started right. Well, better late than never.
Most women are still afraid to talk about sex. They restrict themselves from talking about mere issues related to their bodies, periods, or even sanitary napkins in front of the men. Even when someone else talks about sex in front of them, they get timid and hesitant and develop all wrong assumptions about the other person. So many here are yet to understand sex is a basic necessity of life. I repeat, basic.
Whereas so many men still sexualize every part of a woman’s body regardless it being uncovered or covered. Every body has their hormones flowing, it just takes a little intelligence and chivalry to not be perverts and still have healthy relationships that can get you laid *winks*.
Here are a few among the many things we need to chill about :
- Human body :It’s not abnormal that every woman has a pair of breasts that feeds a new born baby, without which all of us would have starved to death before seeing the world. Neither is it anomalous that every man has a penis that is used for mating so that me, you and all the lame ass people could come into existence and then sexualize human body parts and organs and turn all such things into a taboo. This is mere biology.
- Fantasies / hormonal changes : All of our bodies and minds go trough changes. Even the geekiest person someday craves an intercourse. It’s more than natural to find yourself physically attracted to any person but what is most important here is “Consent“. Forcing your fantasies on somebody without knowing about their desires, if they see you that way or not, is nothing less than criminal. Nobody minds a genuine compliment on their body or physique till you don’t sound like a creep. And I assure you, there are ways to do that. Just as i said, a little intelligence and chivalry can take you a long way.
- Porn : Porn helps stress relieving, decreases sex crimes, it is the first step for queer people to identify their sexuality. But above all, it just feels awesome. Now, what people need to realize is Pornography has its own industry worth $97 Billion, its just like Bollywood or Hollywood with highly paid actors. Intercourse in real life is far different from what they show in those videos. You cannot get insecure about your own body without knowing porn actors use makeup even in those areas and there are hardly any women without stretch marks. This is exactly why you should stop taking porn so seriously. Porn is just like any other movie you watched the last day. It is only for times when one is feeling lascivious and does not necessarily involve in real life.
- Intercourse/ mating/ love making : You may call it whatever you want, what we all know is, it is the best thing. Having sex is as natural to our survival as eating is. The part of the brain called the amygdala (part of the limbic system) that controls basic drives, such as sex and hunger -activates, causing us to want sex. It is considered a bonding tool. That is why when two people are in love, it is the best feeling to have an intercourse.
However, it is completely an individuals personal choice whether they want to have it early or late; who they want to have it with; how many times they want to have it. If you don’t like the concept of it then don’t have it but don’t judge or slut shame anybody for their choices or even bully someone for not having it.
Funniest are those who think not having it is keeping them pure and the rest impure you’re the real idiots or do I say ‘pure idiots’. Well, Sex is not a taboo especially in this country where Kamasutra by Vātsyāyana was written in 400 BCE- 200 CE. Hell, we are supposed to be the sex Gods and Goddesses! But people just have to turn all the best things into taboo.